As we start a new year I was reflecting what I would tell my twenty year old self inspired by the blogger named twentysomething.
The obvious stuff has pit falls – don’t marry him, but then I wouldn’t have my two lovely children and being what I was, I’d probably have married someone similar. So I’ll try to write advice supporting rather than just say no!
I would tell the young me, you are an adult now, every decision now should be your own, take responsibility for it.
No one else knows what they are doing either.
Don’t let your partners career succeed to the detriment of yours.
He isn’t always right just because he dominates.
Take control of the family finances – even more so if it’s his area of expertise.
When children arrive leave them in his sole care often.
If you think he is having an affair he probably is.
Don’t worry about no sex for five years as you will have an amazing time exploring that area very soon, yes even though you are over forty, men will still find you attractive and you will be amazed at how it feels to make love with someone who loves you.
When he leaves it will be the start, not the end of your life in many ways. Stop crying and play with your children.