Cohabitation and marriage with a narcissist.
One legal definition of cohabitation is living together as man and wife. So after 25 years of marriage I should be well qualified on what that feels like?
So to me that means a sexless relationship, possibly once or twice a year.
A relationship where I am scared and dominated and kept in my place, a doormat.
It means my cohabitee does whatever he likes, goes away for weeks at a time on ‘boys trips’ that end up in a brothel. Arrives home in the early hours and if I dare to question I’m in the wrong and if I ask again he will be unfaithful as that’s what I deserve for being suspicious.
It means his car is an Aston Martin and top of the range land rover, my car he lends to me is a Clio.
It means he rarely interacts with the children and does not think about their needs.
He doesn’t have any child care responsibilities.
He gets very drunk every Friday night and Saturday night and is too hungover to participate in any weekend family time. If he’s even about.
It means he’s too busy to take phone calls from me or the kids.
It means I am a housekeeper.
A place where I have no financial control.
I was never more alone than when I was married.
So no I do not want to marry or cohabit, I never want to be that person again.