Being a good guest as Christmas approaches
I love it when family and friends come to stay for a few days, though sometimes I’m embarrassed to say it’s better when they leave. Why are some people such terrible guests? I thought I’d write some tips, and hope you add your own.
- Tell your host when you will arrive as precisely as you can, so they don’t wait in or stay up til midnight.
- Tell your host when you will leave – why is this always left open? We need to plan meals and have our own life to live.
- Let them know as kindly as you can what meals you need, arriving at 3pm or 8pm hungry is frustrating.
- Any special diet?
- If your host offers their bed while they sleep in the garage refuse! They are doing all the hard work, let them at least sleep well. Insist.
- Bring gifts, you are getting free bed and board for a few nights, it’s at least doubled your hostesses weekly shop. Don’t be mean.
- If your hostess is manhandling the Christmas tree out of the house with one hand and has a chainsaw in the other, trying to chop a few inches off. Just wait a moment before asking her about something trivial.
- If your hostess tells you the plans for the day, don’t just stand up as one event starts and say you are off for a walk and give no return time so all the family has to wait.
- Come to meals when called, don’t finish War and Peace first. The meal will be cold and ruined for all.
- Try not to use every dish in the kitchen to make a cup of tea.
- Offer others a tea when you make one yourself.
- Take cups back to the kitchen.
- If you need wardrobe space don’t throw your hostesses clothes on the floor to hang yours up, just ask.
- If you go through their bedroom cupboards you will find things you wish you hadn’t. Give them a bit of privacy.
- If the pets are ill or even if they are well don’t feed them, they will get fed twice by mistake and maybe on special diets. Don’t give them chocolate or any human food.
- Pets often get upset with strangers in the house, don’t complain if the cat poohs in the corner, I’m sure your hostess knows and is rushing around taking care of everyone and will get around to clearing it up.
- If possible don’t block the drive with your car, if you have to, leave your keys out so it can be moved if you are out/asleep/indisposed.
- If your hostess has builders in, try to reschedule, it’s hard enough with builders, but guests too.
- Offer to go out for a meal or two but if your hostess has a plan don’t force it.
- Wash up.
- If there are children about don’t watch something dry on tv and complain that the children can’t sit still, put on the kids stuff and read the paper.
- Remember kids need exercise, get them out side each day.
- If you can’t live without Corry or eastenders, tape it and watch it at home.